I have several people ask me about my take on a gentlemen so here is my two sense!!
Okay ladies, what do we gotta do to get a real gentlemen?? It makes me sad how much the idea of a "gentlemen" has changed since my mom was in high school. Guys are becoming dependent on texting a girl or snap chatting her. Social media is being abused for the wrong reasons. Guys are asking girls for pictures or telling them they look "hella fine." - ok I am sorry but "hella fine" really??? What ever happened to the word BEAUTIFUL... My mom told me that when she was in school, they didn't have iPhones so they couldn't "dm" or "snapchat" you. They had to actually pick up the telephone and call you or ask you out in person. - a guy asking you out IN PERSON sounds foreign nowadays!!!! That is HORRIBLE. My mom also said she use to sit by the telephone and impatiently wait for her "guy" to call her. In school, guys would ask girls out on REAL dates like "go to dinner" or " go to a movie." Not to go "smoke with me" or "come to a party." Some guys try to get you to drink or smoke so it is easier on them... which is an immediate RED FLAG. A guy should NEVER have to rely on that kind of stuff to impress you. If he does he is the wrong dude for you. Period. No questions asked. But anyways ladies, we should not settle for a guy that is going to use us to have "fun" with one time and then drop us. We are better than that. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and not to be used. All I I am going to tell you is DON'T SETTLE !! Yes you heard me right, don't settle for anything less than the way you should be treated. DO NOT tolerate being disrespected or abused. Set your standards high and do not give into anything less than. You are in control. Every girl deserves a gentlemen, I don't care who you are. We as women are valuable and should be a PRIZE to a guy. That being said there are guys out there like this! You may be thinking "ha Avery you thought," but no I am telling you BE PATIENT. The right guy will come when he is suppose to. It may be in ten years or ten days but he will come into your life when he is suppose to. Everything, and I mean everything happens for a reason. So for now focus on your friendships….make memories and lifelong friends. What I believe a true gentlemen entails: 1. Do the LITTLE THINGS. Such as opening the door for you, pulling out your chair,walking you to the door, and giving you flowers. If a guy does these things it shows that he cares for you. Small efforts like this make a guy 10X more attractive. 2. LISTEN to you. A guy should always take notice into what you are telling them. They should respond to it in a way that makes sense and actually pertains to what you were talking about. 3. Makes you feel BEAUTIFUL. You should not have to try and be "sexy" or "hot" in front of a boy. If you ever feel like you have to dress or do more scandalous things in order to impress a guy, than I am sorry to break it to you but he is not the guy for you. 4. ENCOURAGE you. A gentlemen should lift you up and push you to do the things you love. They should not judge you for being passionate about something. They should want you to achieve the greatness you are capable of. 5. Be HUMBLE. A gentlemen should not try and assert attention to himself. Instead he should be modest and not brag about his accomplishments. All the attention he needs should be from you. 6. TREAT OTHERS KINDLY. This is something that is pretty much on every list I've made on my blog. But I am going to say it again. Ladies if he doesn't treat others right, he's not going to treat you right. 7. HONEST. A guy should always be honest with you about things. Lies can hinder your relationship and cause space to grow between you. Make sure the guy is telling you everything and not keeping secrets from you. 8. GENUINE. This one is very important because you want a guy that is "authentic" and "real". You want whatever they are going to say to be true and not lies. 9. TRUSTWORTHY. A relationship is built on trust. You want to be able to confide or tell him anything without the fear of it becoming public. 10. GOOD WITH KIDS. Ladies, a if a guy is good with kids than he will make a great father. You want your kids to have a father that loves and supports them. Even if you don't want kids, this is still important because you could have nieces and nephews... Two quotes my mom has always told me when it comes to finding the right guy: 1. "If it walks like a snake, talks like a snack, than it is a snake." Lol didn't know snakes walked but whatever it makes sense haha. 2. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
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