HELLO EVERYONE!!!! It's been awhile (sorry about that). I wanted to start up my blog again and thought this would be the perfect post to do so. Here are a few of my fav fall necessities <3 Currently drinking: MATCHA Okay so I recently tried to cut my 2-3 cups of coffee a day habit (because y'all I was ADDICTED). To do this I started drinking matcha! Matcha is a type of powdered green tea. It is equivalent to 10 cups of green tea!!! This means that by drinking it, your getting A LOT of caffeine, and 10x the antioxidant benefits of traditionally steeped green tea. The caffeine in Matcha is different from the caffeine in coffee because it is gradually released and absorbed. You know how when you drink a cup of coffee and instantly feel a rush of energy, and about two to three hours later you need another cup? Matcha tea does the opposite. You feel the caffeine in matcha for at least 3-7 hrs (depending on how your body processes it.) Here is my fav matcha product thus far: (fyi I am new to the Matcha tea world) What I'm snacking on: • apples w cinnamon sprinkled on top •eggs w guacamole ( basically a hard boiled egg but with the yolk is replaced with guacamole What I am wearing: Town Square in Southlake is getting so many new stores... which I loveeee. I recently shopped at the new Madewell and Evereve. Madewell has the BEST jeans! They are SO comfy and make a variety of styles. My problem, when I try and find jeans, is that they are always too short or don't reach my waist. At Madewell I found a style of jeans that fits "long" for people that have long legs like me lol. They also make short and regular jeans;). My sister has the opposite problem of me so she loves how they make short jeans. Evereve is a great store to find unique clothes. They carry a variety of clothing brands, including (my fav) FREE PEOPLE!!! They are one of those stores that constantly are changing their inventory so you don't get bored. This store has more classy and dressy clothes. Currently obsessed with: HYPNOTIC POISON. I love spicy and warm perfumes, so this one is perfect for me. It smells mysterious and is very entriguing. BUM BUM CHAPSTICK. This stuff makes my lips feel so lucious and soft. It smells amazing too. Not to mention it is the same brand that makes the famous Bum Bum cream I'm in love with! Currently working on: Being positive.
I struggle with looking on the brighter side of things. When things go wrong I like to throw a mini pity party for myself and think the worst. These negative thoughts start to impact my everyday life by creating a bad atmosphere for those around me. No one likes a negative nelly. I have realized how unhealthy this negative attitude can be on you mentally. In order to start being more positive and looking on the brighter side of things I am going to start making a list of 3 positive things that happen or I am looking forward to each day. I will either write it on my phone or notebook. This exercise is a great way to start developing optimistic tendencies and implementing a more healthy mindset :)
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Okay so here are a few tips I use to help manage my stress, because NGL LIFE IS STRESSFUL.
My favorite stress relief products:"What we think, we become,"
-Buddha I absolutely LOVE this quote! What it is saying is that whatever you let fill your brain is what you become. You are your thoughts. I repeat YOU ARE YOUR THOUGHTS. You achieve what you say you can achieve. You work as hard as your brain says you can. You are in complete control over the present. What you are doing right now will only effect your future. I know that probably sounds over whelming, but I want you to take a deep breath and really think about Buddha's quote. The words "what we think, we become," are so powerful in a sense of their simplicity and essence. It is important to apply this quote to your life because you need to come in realization with your self. I want you to examine your thoughts and find out if they are hampering you from being the person you want (and will) become. If you are like me, than your thoughts will be getting in the way of being the person you are set out to be. My personal problem is that I am very impatient and want things to happen right now. If something doesn't happen immediately, than I flip out and lose track of what my dreams were. I almost give up. I start to pity myself and have thoughts such as "nothing ever goes my way," or "I am the most unlucky person in the world." - but GUYS WHAT ARE THESE THOUGHTS GOING TO DO? Are they going to make your life magically better? Will they make your dreams come true? What I have learned in life, is that nothing happens with out a reason. If you are meant to do something you will do it. It is crucial not to give up when you feel like nothing is going your way. The action of not giving up is what determines if a person is dedicated or not. You cannot achieve success without failure. This is the mindset I have set in my brain. I am going to focus my thoughts around not giving up and persevere through failure. I AM GOING TO FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE!!! My thoughts are what are going to enable me to achieve my destiny. Now, enough about me. I want to know what mindset YOU are going to set in your brain to help make your dreams a reality. In order to find that mindset, you are going to have to ask yourself a few questions...
Now, I want you to come up with a few phrases that you are going to repeat to yourself. They are going to be the person you will become. The four questions I just asked you, are going to be the basis to these phrases. Examples of them are "I will become [answer to #1]," "I will [answer to #2]," "I love my [answer to #3]," and "I am going to kick [answer to #4] in the butt." Once you start to fill your mind with those phrases/thoughts you will become the person you have always wanted to become. Isn't it funny how much of a role your brain plays in your everyday life? Exercise your brain by challenging it to have these positive thoughts. Just like anything else, it takes practice to have a this mind set. You are going to become what you want if you practice this exercise everyday. To conclude I am going to ask you to ingrain Buddha's quote in your mind, and DO NOT forget it. What you think is what you are... "Life only comes around once, so do what makes you happy, and be with whoever makes you smile"
- Lately I have been struggling with doing what makes me happy. I want to fit in, and be liked so I hide the things I am passionate about. Everyday I do and act the way I am "suppose" to; I feel like a robot almost. It may not make me happy but it makes others happy. -but that's ok right, because it makes other people happy? -No it is not ok. We deserve to be happy. To do what we love and not have a care in the world about who will judge us. Do not feel like you have to do anything because someone else wants you to. In the end your life is your life, no one else's. I am telling you, if you always do what others want you to do, you will never be happy. Follow your passions and pursue them. Maybe you really enjoy singing, doing makeup, writing, teaching others, math, photography, designing clothes etc. The list goes on & on. Point is whatever you love, DO; and do it to the fullest extent. One day, when your ready, I want you to wake up and make this promise to your self: "from here on out, I am going to do what makes me happy and follow my dreams." Once you do this, be fearless and pursue the promise you made to yourself. THIS IS THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF. Once you do this, life will become AMAZING. (I know I say that a lot but it's true). You will be happy and content if you are doing what you love, no buts about it. It is hard to be fearless and pursue what makes you happy, especially if it doesn't follow the norm of society. There may be some drawbacks in making this irrational decision about your life, but the positives out weigh the negatives! Do not be afraid of standing out. Maybe your courageous action to pursue your passion will inspire others. Maybe you'll be a role model to others. When you decide in your heart to be brave and bold, things will start to happen. The life you want will start to unfold in front of you. You will feel content and at peace with what surrounds you. Happiness and joy will fill the air you breath. -now yes, things will not be perfect but your decision to fearlessly pursue your passion is the closest thing you can do to achieve perfect. Just let go, unlock the chains that are hampering you from doing what you love, and most importantly do not care what others will think. Make the promise to yourself to live the life you want to, and commit to it. Happiness- feeling content or pleasure
Joy- everlasting happiness So first things first... I want you to picture the last time you truly laughed. Think about the people who you were with. Those are the people you should surround yourself with. Ok, now I want you to picture your current friend group. I want you to ask yourself, "Am I myself around them? or do I change to cater their approval? If you answered Yes to the first question than you are with people that bring you up; those are the friends you want to cherish!! Now if you answered yes to the second question (and it is ok if you did), than I think you should reconsider who you surround yourself with. Why hangout with people who you can't act yourself around??? Don't know if its just me, but that doesn't sound like fun. If you constantly feel like an "underdog" or "less-than" your friends, then there is an obvious problem. Friends should LIFT YOU UP and make you more *JOYFUL* (key word). A true friend knows when you are sad, or angry or tired. They not only want to make you feel better, but genuinely care about why you had those feelings in the first place. Rules for a good friend: 1. Treat you with RESPECT. Like the Golden Rule says, "Do unto others, as you would like them to do to you." You are not a toy, therefore you should not be thrown around and poorly treated. A true friend will should admire you, and your personality. 2. Be a two way street. What that means is, a friend should not just consider themselves all the time. To be a true friend you have to do a little of both, LISTEN and TALK. Your friend should give you their FULL attention when you are talking to them, and not be on their phones or focused on anything else. 3. BE KIND to others. They should not only treat you kindly but those around you as well. You want a friend that puts out positive energy in the world because that is who you are associating your self with. Your image is important and if your friend is unkind to others, than there is a problem. 4. Give you the ugly truth, even if you do not want to hear it. A friend should hold you accountable for your actions and not be afraid to tell you when they see a "lesser version" of yourself than they know. 5. Be someone you can have FUN with. The fun I am talking about is TRUE fun, NOT (I repeat) NOT the kind influenced by alcohol or drugs. You should be able to have a good LAUGH with your friend without all that stuff. You should want to go on adventures together and do exciting things. They don't have to be grand, they can be as simple as having JAM SESSIONS or a fun PHOTOSHOOT ( shoutout to Nina for last night). 6. Gives you useful and thoughtful advice. A friend should be able to listen to your problems and give you advice back. The advice I am talking about is the advice that is THOUGHTFULLY and GENUINELY generated through them listening to your problem. 7. Be patient with you. They should know that you are not perfect and that you make mistakes. That being said you have to know they are not perfect as well 8. A good friend should ENJOY your company and LIFT you up. You SHOULD NOT, and I mean that, have to lessen your own self in order to gain their approval. 9. Be someone who you can be your WEIRD self around. Lets face it... everyone is weird in their own way. Your friend should love your "weirdness" and not make you hide it or feel bad about it 10. Defend you. A good friend should stand up for you when you are treated unfairly, and talk nicely about you to others; period. If you are reading this list, and think "Oh shoot, the friends I have right now are not my true friends." Than do not panic, just open your mind up to other people and don't care what people will think if you change friends. I feel like a lot of times people are friends with certain people just for the "image" those people have. We as humans are naturally selfish so this is a normal instinct. - but that being said, we as humans have every right to change that horrible habit. Once you let go of the more "popular" choice, life feels SO FREAKING GOOD. BE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU AND YOUR CRAZY WEIRD PERSONALITY. If you read this and are like "oh crap, I am not a true friend." Again don't panic. Just remember the advice I have given you with the ten tips and grow through them. Stop caring over your "popular image" and just be. Let go. Be yourself. And most importantly treat those around you KINDLY. I have several people ask me about my take on a gentlemen so here is my two sense!!
Okay ladies, what do we gotta do to get a real gentlemen?? It makes me sad how much the idea of a "gentlemen" has changed since my mom was in high school. Guys are becoming dependent on texting a girl or snap chatting her. Social media is being abused for the wrong reasons. Guys are asking girls for pictures or telling them they look "hella fine." - ok I am sorry but "hella fine" really??? What ever happened to the word BEAUTIFUL... My mom told me that when she was in school, they didn't have iPhones so they couldn't "dm" or "snapchat" you. They had to actually pick up the telephone and call you or ask you out in person. - a guy asking you out IN PERSON sounds foreign nowadays!!!! That is HORRIBLE. My mom also said she use to sit by the telephone and impatiently wait for her "guy" to call her. In school, guys would ask girls out on REAL dates like "go to dinner" or " go to a movie." Not to go "smoke with me" or "come to a party." Some guys try to get you to drink or smoke so it is easier on them... which is an immediate RED FLAG. A guy should NEVER have to rely on that kind of stuff to impress you. If he does he is the wrong dude for you. Period. No questions asked. But anyways ladies, we should not settle for a guy that is going to use us to have "fun" with one time and then drop us. We are better than that. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and not to be used. All I I am going to tell you is DON'T SETTLE !! Yes you heard me right, don't settle for anything less than the way you should be treated. DO NOT tolerate being disrespected or abused. Set your standards high and do not give into anything less than. You are in control. Every girl deserves a gentlemen, I don't care who you are. We as women are valuable and should be a PRIZE to a guy. That being said there are guys out there like this! You may be thinking "ha Avery you thought," but no I am telling you BE PATIENT. The right guy will come when he is suppose to. It may be in ten years or ten days but he will come into your life when he is suppose to. Everything, and I mean everything happens for a reason. So for now focus on your friendships….make memories and lifelong friends. What I believe a true gentlemen entails: 1. Do the LITTLE THINGS. Such as opening the door for you, pulling out your chair,walking you to the door, and giving you flowers. If a guy does these things it shows that he cares for you. Small efforts like this make a guy 10X more attractive. 2. LISTEN to you. A guy should always take notice into what you are telling them. They should respond to it in a way that makes sense and actually pertains to what you were talking about. 3. Makes you feel BEAUTIFUL. You should not have to try and be "sexy" or "hot" in front of a boy. If you ever feel like you have to dress or do more scandalous things in order to impress a guy, than I am sorry to break it to you but he is not the guy for you. 4. ENCOURAGE you. A gentlemen should lift you up and push you to do the things you love. They should not judge you for being passionate about something. They should want you to achieve the greatness you are capable of. 5. Be HUMBLE. A gentlemen should not try and assert attention to himself. Instead he should be modest and not brag about his accomplishments. All the attention he needs should be from you. 6. TREAT OTHERS KINDLY. This is something that is pretty much on every list I've made on my blog. But I am going to say it again. Ladies if he doesn't treat others right, he's not going to treat you right. 7. HONEST. A guy should always be honest with you about things. Lies can hinder your relationship and cause space to grow between you. Make sure the guy is telling you everything and not keeping secrets from you. 8. GENUINE. This one is very important because you want a guy that is "authentic" and "real". You want whatever they are going to say to be true and not lies. 9. TRUSTWORTHY. A relationship is built on trust. You want to be able to confide or tell him anything without the fear of it becoming public. 10. GOOD WITH KIDS. Ladies, a if a guy is good with kids than he will make a great father. You want your kids to have a father that loves and supports them. Even if you don't want kids, this is still important because you could have nieces and nephews... Two quotes my mom has always told me when it comes to finding the right guy: 1. "If it walks like a snake, talks like a snack, than it is a snake." Lol didn't know snakes walked but whatever it makes sense haha. 2. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Okay so today I am going to rant about the importance of patience. Lately, this is something I have struggled with. I always wanna go, go, go. This is something I have done since I was little. For example, right now I am always thinking about the future and my next step. I am not saying it is wrong to think about the future, just that you shouldn't lose track of the present. When you get distracted about thinking about your next step, you lose what is happening right in front of you. For me, I am always thinking about how I am going to travel the world. I just sit there and start to day dream about how I wish I could be on "that" plane or in "this" city. When in reality, that is not going to do anything except make me ungrateful in what is happening in the present. I am telling you, once you start working in the present, things will start to happen. For me, this blog was the start of breaking my continuous futuristic and discontent thoughts. I come on here and rant when I get stressed. Today was one of those days I struggled with being patient. I have big aspirations and I just want to achieve them right now. But I have to remember, I have my whole life ahead of me. I need to enjoy the part of my life I am in right now. Same said for you. Whatever you are thinking about that is taking your thoughts away from the present, just let it go. Ask yourself, "Ok self, what is happening in front of me? What am I missing?" You will be surprised to the answers of those questions. It is hard to be patient; extremely hard. I have yet to master the art of it (and maybe I never will). But all I can do is just laugh it off and think "this is where I am suppose to be in life right now." To conclude I am going to say, lets stop, take a breather, and look around at what is happening. Be thankful for the people and things in your life at this moment. You will be surprised as to what you have been missing. Life will become more simple and easier to manage:) Challenge: Make a list of 25 GOOD things that are happening in your life RIGHT NOW We all know that one girl that when you see her you wanna be her. We want her body, looks, personality, boyfriend, etc. It is difficult to not have these desires because in todays social-media-run world, everyone looks happy and perfect all the time. But listen........ I am hear to tell you that is not the case. Just because you see a picture of someone on instagram with a perfect body or the cutest boyfriend, it doesn't really mean they are happy. You can make a picture look 100X better than the actual situation. For example a lot of swimsuit model ads use apps to edit out any ounce of "cellulite" or "stretch marks" they have on their bodies. This is why I absolutely HATE social media . It is addicting not gonna lie. You just feel like your missing out on everything in the world. But anyways- point is social media is toxic. The main theme of social media I am trying to point out is "things aren't always as good as they appear to be." This message is SO IMPORTANT. I am telling you. So back to that girl that you wanna be; sure she might be drop dead gorgeous or seem like she has everything together, but in reality that is not the case. Nobody is perfect ( ha just quoted Hannah Montana), nobody has everything together, and nobody is flawless. Ik what your thinking " Well Avery this person is literally flawless" and you know what I say to that "bet" I am telling you. This person may seem perfect on Instagram (and social media is really good at making it seem this way), but reality is they're not. Maybe the girl you see on your phone is really hurting deep down, feels lonely, or better yet insecure about themselves. So next time you think of someone as "flawless" or "perfect" consider that. Now I am going to give you a few tips on how to harbor your own self confidence: 1. Replace every "I am not (fill in the blank) enough" thought with two positive thoughts about yourself. 2. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY. This is probably my number one key to helping with self confidence. The you treat your body good, you feel good. 3. Write down three positive things about yourself every night. It works, believe me. 4. *important one* SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF, NOT BAD. This one is extremely important to me, because I use to surround myself with people who only put me down. Every time I would hang with them I would come home feeling bad about myself. So one day I decided to change and I started to surround myself with amazing friends that I adore. These friends not only make me feel positive about myself, but hopeful. :) 5. Live in the moment. Focus on the hear and now. Do not dwell on the past. It is done and over with and there is nothing you can do to change it. 6. Treat yourself... every girl needs a nice bubble bath here and there 7. Do what you love. This is one that is really hard to do because it is difficult to not fear the judgment of others. ^^ This is one I have struggled with. It is not easy to overcome. -but you know what, i kicked that fear in the face. I wanted to start a blog for the longest time, but was so scared others would judge me. But one day I go "honestly if people judge me, that is there problem not mine. I am going to YOLO it, and start this blog." 8. Do random acts of kindness. This is important because when you put out kind things to the world, you will receive them in return. Also it makes you feel good!! |
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