Happiness- feeling content or pleasure
Joy- everlasting happiness So first things first... I want you to picture the last time you truly laughed. Think about the people who you were with. Those are the people you should surround yourself with. Ok, now I want you to picture your current friend group. I want you to ask yourself, "Am I myself around them? or do I change to cater their approval? If you answered Yes to the first question than you are with people that bring you up; those are the friends you want to cherish!! Now if you answered yes to the second question (and it is ok if you did), than I think you should reconsider who you surround yourself with. Why hangout with people who you can't act yourself around??? Don't know if its just me, but that doesn't sound like fun. If you constantly feel like an "underdog" or "less-than" your friends, then there is an obvious problem. Friends should LIFT YOU UP and make you more *JOYFUL* (key word). A true friend knows when you are sad, or angry or tired. They not only want to make you feel better, but genuinely care about why you had those feelings in the first place. Rules for a good friend: 1. Treat you with RESPECT. Like the Golden Rule says, "Do unto others, as you would like them to do to you." You are not a toy, therefore you should not be thrown around and poorly treated. A true friend will should admire you, and your personality. 2. Be a two way street. What that means is, a friend should not just consider themselves all the time. To be a true friend you have to do a little of both, LISTEN and TALK. Your friend should give you their FULL attention when you are talking to them, and not be on their phones or focused on anything else. 3. BE KIND to others. They should not only treat you kindly but those around you as well. You want a friend that puts out positive energy in the world because that is who you are associating your self with. Your image is important and if your friend is unkind to others, than there is a problem. 4. Give you the ugly truth, even if you do not want to hear it. A friend should hold you accountable for your actions and not be afraid to tell you when they see a "lesser version" of yourself than they know. 5. Be someone you can have FUN with. The fun I am talking about is TRUE fun, NOT (I repeat) NOT the kind influenced by alcohol or drugs. You should be able to have a good LAUGH with your friend without all that stuff. You should want to go on adventures together and do exciting things. They don't have to be grand, they can be as simple as having JAM SESSIONS or a fun PHOTOSHOOT ( shoutout to Nina for last night). 6. Gives you useful and thoughtful advice. A friend should be able to listen to your problems and give you advice back. The advice I am talking about is the advice that is THOUGHTFULLY and GENUINELY generated through them listening to your problem. 7. Be patient with you. They should know that you are not perfect and that you make mistakes. That being said you have to know they are not perfect as well 8. A good friend should ENJOY your company and LIFT you up. You SHOULD NOT, and I mean that, have to lessen your own self in order to gain their approval. 9. Be someone who you can be your WEIRD self around. Lets face it... everyone is weird in their own way. Your friend should love your "weirdness" and not make you hide it or feel bad about it 10. Defend you. A good friend should stand up for you when you are treated unfairly, and talk nicely about you to others; period. If you are reading this list, and think "Oh shoot, the friends I have right now are not my true friends." Than do not panic, just open your mind up to other people and don't care what people will think if you change friends. I feel like a lot of times people are friends with certain people just for the "image" those people have. We as humans are naturally selfish so this is a normal instinct. - but that being said, we as humans have every right to change that horrible habit. Once you let go of the more "popular" choice, life feels SO FREAKING GOOD. BE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU AND YOUR CRAZY WEIRD PERSONALITY. If you read this and are like "oh crap, I am not a true friend." Again don't panic. Just remember the advice I have given you with the ten tips and grow through them. Stop caring over your "popular image" and just be. Let go. Be yourself. And most importantly treat those around you KINDLY.
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